Connection Through Disconnection: The Wednesday 1-2-3

Happy Wednesday Reader!

A few weeks ago, I reached out to a group of amazing inner work practitioners, therapists, and writers to ask this question:

How do you cultivate a sense of connection in the midst of seeming chaos and conflict?

And in one of the first responses I received, R.G. Shore, author of The Ocean Inside Me: A Spiritual Memoir on Healing Racial Trauma, shared an approach to connection that challenged me and gave me pause.

He said this:

“Connection, for me, is much more about letting go of what isn’t connection, as opposed as trying to find it.”

I invite you to watch the whole video (it’s less than five minutes) and take some time to reflect on what in your life isn’t feeling connective for you – and what it might mean to let it go.

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❓ Questions

  1. What is something in your life you could let go of (or disconnect from) in order to feel more connected?
  2. How do you cultivate a sense of connection in the midst of seeming chaos and conflict?

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