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Sending you good vibes,
\nAndrew
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As many of us in the United States travel to see family in the next couple days (both chosen and related), I’ve found myself thinking about stories of upbringing. Or more specifically: the stories we're told during childhood that teach us who we are, who others around us are, how we might relate to the Universe, and who ultimately belong in “our group” and who don’t. The stories that, in one way or another, tend to shape our initial posture toward the world. A colleague of mine, Catherine Quiring, developed a tool for helping us understand our narratives and their origins – it's called the Consent/Closeness Matrix: As you look at the matrix, you’ll notice two axes:
These axes, when placed together, contextualize four different quadrants: paternalism, authoritarianism, radical acceptance, and radical autonomy. I like to think of these as different contexts or energies from which stories come out of. Here are some examples: Paternalistic Narratives (low consent, high warmth):
Authoritarian Narratives (low consent, low warmth):
Radical Acceptance Narratives (high consent, high warmth):
Radical Autonomy Narratives (high consent, high distance):
Obviously there are a ton of complexities and nuances within this matrix, but here’s a basic practice for you this week:Take some time and reflect on your upbringing. Think about your experience of how these quadrants shaped the stories and teachings you were offered. For each of the guiding questions below, try reflecting on the stories and teachings offered to you by 1) your family and individual family members and 2) communities you were a part of and specific community members. Then, imagine where those stories would be placed if you were to put them on the matrix. From which quadrant did you receive your foundational stories about…
To watch Catherine do a deeper walkthrough of this tool, check out her video here. Questions
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Hey Reader, A quick request: as we come to the close of the year, I have a reader survey for you! It’ll only take a couple minutes and will help inform what The Wednesday 1-2-3 looks like going forward. 📝 Please complete this short 2024 Reader Survey (And in case it helps: there's a cute tardigrade gif at the end of the survey 😂) Last week I was talking with a friend about burnout – specifically “activist burnout.” He mentioned how folks who engage in activism often go full-speed ahead until...
Hey Reader, At the bottom of today’s email is a free 25-minute mini-workshop I recorded for you. It’s all about how we hold the charge of this moment – the heaviness, fear, unease, and discomfort of it all – in a gentle and intentional way. Just wanted to make sure you saw it 🙂 Alright – onward to today’s prompt: A couple weeks ago, I wrote that we are collectively living in the midst of a disillusioning moment. I defined this experience as: A moment when the illusion of “how the world works”...
Hey Reader, With Thanksgiving Day tomorrow for those of us in the United States, I thought it would be a good time to bring back the Consent/Closeness Matrix, which I first shared about a year ago. Designed by my colleague Catherine Quiring, the Consent/Closeness Matrix is a tool for helping us understand the stories we carry within us and their origins. (If you can't see the image above, you can view it here.) As you look at the matrix, you’ll notice two axes: Low consent - high consent...