Happy Wednesday Reader! About 14 months ago (and 62 editions ago!), I began sending the Wednesday 1-2-3 as a way of passing on the insights, teachings, frameworks, and questions that had been shifting and shaping my inner work. It has been unbelievably life-giving for me, especially as I've gotten to hear how it's supported those of you reading it each week. If you know someone in your communities who would benefit from these weekly teachings, I'd really appreciate if you could pass it along and invite them to sign up. I'm excited to keep writing and sharing resources we can all use as we engage in our inner work. Here's the link you can share. 🙂 Alright – onward to our teaching, questions, and resources for the week: 1. TeachingWhen you come face-to-face with the oppressive systems of the world, what do you do? On a stress response level, perhaps you fight, freeze, fawn, or flee. (Say that five times fast.) On a social level, perhaps you immediately engage with those experiencing harm (or, when you experience harm, perhaps you seek out allies and accomplices) or look around to see what other bystanders are doing. On a political level, maybe you organize with others to reduce the power of that oppressive system – or maybe you tell yourself that “now is not the time for politics.” As people held within a communal context – as we all are – it’s vital we become aware of our tendencies and responses when it comes to witnessing and experiencing injustice and oppression. (I shared a bit of my personal story as it relates to this on Instagram earlier this week.) Without that awareness, it can be way too easy to either:
Gabes Torres, a brilliant activist, organizer, and mental health professional invites us instead to oscillate. Oscillation: “the nonlinear swing, the circular dance, a dynamic spectrum, or the back-and-forth movement of:
She breaks this process of oscillation into four movements: Rest: To rest is to become in touch with our bodily needs and to honor those needs. It is to enter into and cultivate spaces and experiences that "bring us ease, revitalization, and a wider capacity for breath." To rest is not to check-out, but to be mindful of our interior and exterior lives and to allow our bodies to settle so that we may engage in more grounded and sustainable ways. Digest: To digest means to intentionally review and interpret the experiences of our lives. This includes personal events and traumas, communal challenges and conflict, and ongoing (and historical) instances of societal harm. Gabes writes this phase "is about metabolizing the information you have internalized or absorbed in your body." Process: We can process information and experiences through external expression – this is an alternative to keeping it all bottled up or wallowing in questions like "what can I do?" This might look like painting, writing, cooking, singing, dancing, shouting, pulling your people together for dinner, going and playing racquetball, or something else entirely. Resist: To resist is to see the harms of the world with honest and soft eyes, to center one's actions on the always-present instances of beauty and love, and to move in ways that reduce and eliminate acts of dehumanization. Resistance is always rooted in community and unique to the felt needs and experiences of that space. It is flexible, creative, and life-honoring. (See Beautiful Trouble's toolkit below for tangible examples of resistance.) 2. Questions
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Hey Reader, A quick request: as we come to the close of the year, I have a reader survey for you! It’ll only take a couple minutes and will help inform what The Wednesday 1-2-3 looks like going forward. 📝 Please complete this short 2024 Reader Survey (And in case it helps: there's a cute tardigrade gif at the end of the survey 😂) Last week I was talking with a friend about burnout – specifically “activist burnout.” He mentioned how folks who engage in activism often go full-speed ahead until...
Hey Reader, At the bottom of today’s email is a free 25-minute mini-workshop I recorded for you. It’s all about how we hold the charge of this moment – the heaviness, fear, unease, and discomfort of it all – in a gentle and intentional way. Just wanted to make sure you saw it 🙂 Alright – onward to today’s prompt: A couple weeks ago, I wrote that we are collectively living in the midst of a disillusioning moment. I defined this experience as: A moment when the illusion of “how the world works”...
Hey Reader, With Thanksgiving Day tomorrow for those of us in the United States, I thought it would be a good time to bring back the Consent/Closeness Matrix, which I first shared about a year ago. Designed by my colleague Catherine Quiring, the Consent/Closeness Matrix is a tool for helping us understand the stories we carry within us and their origins. (If you can't see the image above, you can view it here.) As you look at the matrix, you’ll notice two axes: Low consent - high consent...