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Whose voice has made a home in you? The Wednesday 1-2-3
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Alright - here's our teaching, questions, and resources to explore this week:
1. Teaching
There have been times in my life when I haven’t recognized the person I’ve become.
Sometimes it’s a pleasant surprise – the moments I realize I’m actually really proud of me, awe-struck thankful for the ways my parents have guided me, and head-over-heels in gratitude to my community and the folks who surround me.
And then there are the times when I realize – even while I hold everything above as true – that I’ve taken on shapes and behaviors and beliefs I didn’t really intend to. These are the moments I realize I’ve followed someone else instead of discerning what I actually wanted. Or when I find myself chastising myself with shame-dripping words from someone else’s voice.
Cole Arthur Riley writes to each of us:
And she offers this practice for those of us who find ourselves in this confusing state of becoming:
I listen for what’s true.
2. Questions
- When have you internalized someone else’s voice until you couldn’t distinguish it from your own? How has this impacted you in your body, your behaviors, and/or your beliefs?
- Take a moment to name some of the stories you tell yourself about yourself. (You might respond to the question: “Who are you, really?”) What truth is in your response? What are you being invited to release?
3. Resources
- Cole Arthur Riley sharing this teaching (Instagram post)
- Black Liturgies: Prayers, Poems, and Meditations for Staying Human by Cole Arthur Riley (book for pre-order)
- “Spiritual Depth and Social Change” with Cole Arthur Riley (video)
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